Son is 24 years old and lives at home with me,should I allow him to live rent free?
Question by Kalema: Son is 24 years old and lives at home with me,should I allow him to live rent free?
I am a singleworking mother and I put my son through college. He graduated two years ago and has not found a job. He has been on a few interviews,but not consistantly. I give him information,but he has not looked into anything. He hangs out at the clubs with friends all weekend,and will do chores only if I pay him. I do not want to see him on the street,but I take care of him, and three younger siblings all on my paycheck. Any advice would be apppreciated.
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Answer by AL is legendary
you should tell him to move out he has a college degree he’ll make it you can’t just provide him your house to live at, and no offense but any man should be glad to do work for his mother that lets him live there without paying a dime. he will be fine
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heck no. either kick him out, make him get a job to pay rent, or take away all the luxuries you give him. its ridiculous for him to still live at home. this reminds me of failure to launch lol
Look lady you need to put your foot on his ass and tel him that if he wants to keep living under your roof he needs to start paying rent. Also you need to make him look for a job, he needs to help you with the bills. i mean come on he gets to party all weekend and all you do is work and take care of three siblings that’s not right. And then you pay him to do chores does not right you do enough for him, he shouldn’t be charging you.
what i think you should do is give him a amount of time to find a job and a place to live and after that let him go because you done yo job and its no good for him to be there if he not doing anything useful.
absolutely not he should be helping out even if it means working at McDonald’s until he finds a job in the field he studied…. you need to be strong but your foot down now what kind of example is he setting for his three younger siblings… he is not teaching them how a man behaves he is teaching them how an ungrateful son who is 24 and still sponging off mommy behaves…. I hear an ultimatum coming on get a job pay me 100 dollars a week towards your food and rent or get out…get your own apartment pay your own rent and utilities and buy your own food I can guarantee you it will cost you more than 100 a week I love you dearly son but I have supported your grow butt long enough and I have 3 other kids I need to save money for college for so I can help them like I helped you …you have one week to find a job I do not care if it is at McDonald’s as long as you make enough to pay your 100 a week do I make myself clear.. bank of mommy is officially closed …. and walk away… but make sure you stick to it as well… if at the end of the week you see no progress with him getting a job pack his stuff. let him see the real world instead of mommy paying for everything land… how long do you think those friends he is clubbing with are gonna let him sleep on the couch without a damn job not long trust me.
give him 30 days to find a job and a new place to live. up until now, he’s had no reason to try and get a job – you are enabling him to be a slacker and take advantage of you!
His behavior is unacceptable and giving him a deadline might kick his rear end in gear. It seems wrong, but he is taking advantage of you.
Tell him he either has to start paying rent, or you will kick him out in a month (two, if that makes you more comfortable).
If he has friends, I’m sure at least one of them will let him crash there until he realizes how pathetic it is for a grown, educated man to mooch off of his loving mother. Then, he’ll either mooch off his friends, get a job, or come crawling back to you with promises of finding a job if you let him stay (which you HAVE to hold him to).
This must be a really hard decision for you, but he’s a grown man and needs to be responsible for himself. You know this, or you wouldn’t be asking this question. In the long run, you will be doing him a favor. He needs to start his career, save up for retirement, buy a house, etc. I think you will do the right thing. Be strong.
P.S. I know someone who only occasionally has a job, and his mom lets him live with her rent-free. He’s 28 now and still there with no future planned…
If he was helping out around the house (not being paid to do so) or helping with his siblings or actively looking for a job or working at all then it would be ok for him to live rent free. But as it stands now he is educated unemployed mooch that is costing you money. He can get a job, it my not be the job he wants but he could be working.
I would give him ultimatum to move out or live with you but he has to be working and give him a list of responsibilities that he has to do well living there.
He wont end up on the streets he will grow up and figure it out just like you did.